When referring to you in conversation with Husband I usually say, "My friend tass..." because you are my friend first and, to me, gender is a secondary or even tertiary component of who people are for me.
When I was your age, I felt the same way about "girls" and "woman" as descriptive terms. In my mind, I wasn't yet a woman, but was outgrowing "girl". I definitely call myself a woman now though (which is for me more about female adult vs. female child than traditional man/woman gender roles), and honestly, bearing children isn't what really did it for me. It was just aging and maturing to a certain point to where I felt that I was finally an adult, that I had the confidence adults have, and was looked upon by my colleagues at work in their 50's and 60's as an adult rather than a "just-out-of-college kid".
The moment came a few months after I turned 35 (I'll be 38 this December). I don't think there was a specific event that triggered the change. It was just a slow and gradual thing.
It felt good to finally grow up, to finally be confident in my own skin.
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Date: May. 10th, 2007 03:22 am (UTC)From:When I was your age, I felt the same way about "girls" and "woman" as descriptive terms. In my mind, I wasn't yet a woman, but was outgrowing "girl". I definitely call myself a woman now though (which is for me more about female adult vs. female child than traditional man/woman gender roles), and honestly, bearing children isn't what really did it for me. It was just aging and maturing to a certain point to where I felt that I was finally an adult, that I had the confidence adults have, and was looked upon by my colleagues at work in their 50's and 60's as an adult rather than a "just-out-of-college kid".
The moment came a few months after I turned 35 (I'll be 38 this December). I don't think there was a specific event that triggered the change. It was just a slow and gradual thing.
It felt good to finally grow up, to finally be confident in my own skin.