I'd probably just say "my friend Tass" rather than refer to your gender as a personhood-describing noun.
I have this same problem. "Woman" brings up images of very normal looking female people who are at least five years older than I am. I think the normality is a big part of it - someone who is kind of a subculture freak does not read as "woman" to me because "woman" is always foreign, other, like a teacher when I'm a little kid.
I am used to being "girl" and so I would still likely call my female friends who are weirdos and around my age "girls" because that's the category for people more like me. Does that make sense?
I totally don't think of myself as a woman. I think of myself as genderqueer, a girl, a person, and sometimes I identify with "women" in the greater plural sense, but never in the singular sense.
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Date: May. 10th, 2007 07:14 am (UTC)From:I have this same problem. "Woman" brings up images of very normal looking female people who are at least five years older than I am. I think the normality is a big part of it - someone who is kind of a subculture freak does not read as "woman" to me because "woman" is always foreign, other, like a teacher when I'm a little kid.
I am used to being "girl" and so I would still likely call my female friends who are weirdos and around my age "girls" because that's the category for people more like me. Does that make sense?
I totally don't think of myself as a woman. I think of myself as genderqueer, a girl, a person, and sometimes I identify with "women" in the greater plural sense, but never in the singular sense.
I'm kinda weird like that, though.