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1. What is your relationship status?
Engaged toenotsola. Engaged muy long time many moons (buh... where moon = calendar month, about 57?). I think we hadn't been thinking it would take this long to get me to Canada when we plighted that troth.
2. If you are with someone, how long have you been together?
There's a couple of possible ways to count it, but the most conservative date is since October 1999. So a little more than six years in that case.
3. Why did your last relationship end?
The very most recent thing that could possibly count as "relationship"? It was awfully casual so I guess the best description I can give is "jusut wasn't all that into it." Plus, upcoming moving away from location which was also as good an excuse as any. Last thing that I really think of as being A Relationship™? Icky mojo. Really wasn't into it anymore. Arrival ofenotsola on the scene. Stuff.
4. Do you still speak to that person?
No. The last time I talked to him was in the fall of 2000 when he apparently had failed to pay an electric bill that was in my name, or something like that (we had lived together, and I had moved out before the expiration of the lease, so he was still there and the bills were not changed).
5. When it comes to people you date, how old is too old?
Hypothetically? Probably not someone more than 10 years older than myself, although that gets longer the older I get. When I was 15, someone older than 20 would have been too old and possibly even someone older than 18.enotsola is actually two years younger than I am (almost to the day).
6. How long was your longest relationship?
6 years and counting (enotsola). Previous was um... I guess about four years? Again depending how you count things. Previous to that was 2 years and 9 months. That was the first one I ever had. I'm a loyal little puppy, I am...
7. Do you think a relationship can survive cheating?
(I'm defining "cheating" as "an action outside of agreed rules for the relationship", and not as the more typical "kissing some other girl" kind of thing)
I'm not sure. It depends on the strength of the relationship prior to the incident and the nature of the incident. Once, probably, but it takes a long time to rebuild a trust after it's been broken, and it seems to me it may never quite be the same again.
8. Does the idea of an open relationship appeal to you?
Tried it. Really doesn't work for me. Too insecure. Story might be different in a three-way triad, but that's a mutual thing, not a V or W shape.
9. Is the person you are dating the best sex you have ever had?
Yes. I haven't much to compare to, but I don't feel a need to find out any more than I know. ;)
10. Do you think you are good in bed?
Do I think? I've not really thought about it. Isn't it more important what $PARTNER thinks? I have the feeling that if I dwelt on it too much I'd come up with too many negative answers, so I don't think I want to try.
11. What's more important to you good sex or good conversation?
Probably the latter since there's more of that. (Well, for me, anyway.) The latter might be able to fix the former if there were a problem of some kind. The other way around isn't too likely.
12. Who is "the one that got away"?
He didn't get away. I got 'im. ;)
13. Does your friends opinion of your significant other matter to you?
Only if there were some kind of serious social division going on because of it. And then "matter to me" is not the same as "would cause me to decide to break up with them". Once I devote myself to someone I pretty much stay that way, even if other friends don't like them.
14. Do you discuss your past relationships / sexual history with your significant other?
It has been discussed as much as it needed to be. It's not like I have a long roll call, here!
15. Have you ever been with someone you wished you were in love with?
Uh, what? I've continued to be with someone that I no longer loved, but I wasn't wishing that I did at that point.
16. What is something you should work on for your next relationship or to make your current relationship better?
Not sure. It's hard to gauge when we don't have what you would call a normal daily life together.
17. What are the top three things you need in a relationship?
Shared worldview/cosmology/values/stuff. We need to think that the same things are important, generally. Similar views on spirituality, etc. Needs to be weird as I am in similar ways. This probably covers at least three individual "things"...
18. Are you a good boyfriend / girlfriend?
Beats me. I never dated myself. I don't think I would accept if I asked me out.
19. What is the wildest thing you have ever done to woo someone?
Errr.. magically make it possible to fly cross-country to meet them?
lupabitch)1. What is your relationship status?
Engaged to
enotsola. Engaged muy long time many moons (buh... where moon = calendar month, about 57?). I think we hadn't been thinking it would take this long to get me to Canada when we plighted that troth. 2. If you are with someone, how long have you been together?
There's a couple of possible ways to count it, but the most conservative date is since October 1999. So a little more than six years in that case.
3. Why did your last relationship end?
The very most recent thing that could possibly count as "relationship"? It was awfully casual so I guess the best description I can give is "jusut wasn't all that into it." Plus, upcoming moving away from location which was also as good an excuse as any. Last thing that I really think of as being A Relationship™? Icky mojo. Really wasn't into it anymore. Arrival of
enotsola on the scene. Stuff.4. Do you still speak to that person?
No. The last time I talked to him was in the fall of 2000 when he apparently had failed to pay an electric bill that was in my name, or something like that (we had lived together, and I had moved out before the expiration of the lease, so he was still there and the bills were not changed).
5. When it comes to people you date, how old is too old?
Hypothetically? Probably not someone more than 10 years older than myself, although that gets longer the older I get. When I was 15, someone older than 20 would have been too old and possibly even someone older than 18.
enotsola is actually two years younger than I am (almost to the day).6. How long was your longest relationship?
6 years and counting (
enotsola). Previous was um... I guess about four years? Again depending how you count things. Previous to that was 2 years and 9 months. That was the first one I ever had. I'm a loyal little puppy, I am...7. Do you think a relationship can survive cheating?
(I'm defining "cheating" as "an action outside of agreed rules for the relationship", and not as the more typical "kissing some other girl" kind of thing)
I'm not sure. It depends on the strength of the relationship prior to the incident and the nature of the incident. Once, probably, but it takes a long time to rebuild a trust after it's been broken, and it seems to me it may never quite be the same again.
8. Does the idea of an open relationship appeal to you?
Tried it. Really doesn't work for me. Too insecure. Story might be different in a three-way triad, but that's a mutual thing, not a V or W shape.
9. Is the person you are dating the best sex you have ever had?
Yes. I haven't much to compare to, but I don't feel a need to find out any more than I know. ;)
10. Do you think you are good in bed?
Do I think? I've not really thought about it. Isn't it more important what $PARTNER thinks? I have the feeling that if I dwelt on it too much I'd come up with too many negative answers, so I don't think I want to try.
11. What's more important to you good sex or good conversation?
Probably the latter since there's more of that. (Well, for me, anyway.) The latter might be able to fix the former if there were a problem of some kind. The other way around isn't too likely.
12. Who is "the one that got away"?
He didn't get away. I got 'im. ;)
13. Does your friends opinion of your significant other matter to you?
Only if there were some kind of serious social division going on because of it. And then "matter to me" is not the same as "would cause me to decide to break up with them". Once I devote myself to someone I pretty much stay that way, even if other friends don't like them.
14. Do you discuss your past relationships / sexual history with your significant other?
It has been discussed as much as it needed to be. It's not like I have a long roll call, here!
15. Have you ever been with someone you wished you were in love with?
Uh, what? I've continued to be with someone that I no longer loved, but I wasn't wishing that I did at that point.
16. What is something you should work on for your next relationship or to make your current relationship better?
Not sure. It's hard to gauge when we don't have what you would call a normal daily life together.
17. What are the top three things you need in a relationship?
Shared worldview/cosmology/values/stuff. We need to think that the same things are important, generally. Similar views on spirituality, etc. Needs to be weird as I am in similar ways. This probably covers at least three individual "things"...
18. Are you a good boyfriend / girlfriend?
Beats me. I never dated myself. I don't think I would accept if I asked me out.
19. What is the wildest thing you have ever done to woo someone?
Errr.. magically make it possible to fly cross-country to meet them?