marriage stuff

[arethinn]

enotsola and I were tentatively planning for May 3rd, but my mother has shot that down as being Beltane (in the SCA Kingdom of the West sense) and if the person who is fighting for her at March Crown (March 22) should win, she HAS to be there to be crowned queen. (which is O.o all in itself) This is a bummer because the 3rd sat well with both of us "feeling" wise, but yeah. We're not sure whether forward to the 10th or back to April 26th is better. Right now I'm leaning for back because we can't apply for an employment authorization until we have applied to adjust status to permanent resident, which we have to complete the marriage first to be able to do, so the sooner the better on getting him employed and us out of my parents' house. ^_-

Turns out also that the marriage license is only the first part and we do have to have some kind of ceremony, although California is loose about who can perform a marriage. You can have a clergyperson or judge do it, pay an the extra fee to have the county clerk's office do it (but you have to have an appointment and it's something crazy like Tues - Fri, 10 AM to 4 PM only) or pay a different extra fee to deputize some friend or relative of choice to be a "solemnizer" (who has to show up and apply for this -- I assume they are sworn in, given forms, stuff like that).

Um. We don't have anyone in mind for that. We are not having a church wedding, ugh. I'm not thrilled by the idea of the civil ceremony schedule because we really would prefer a weekend. Any of you local doods out there (still) ordained?

(*grumbles at the eligibility language that says "The couple must be an unmarried man and an unmarried woman"*)