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This is probably going to sound unnecessarily vain, because I don't think anyone would want to put out this much effort anyway, but because the overall stuation (to wit: leaving the country, without any plans for any "goodbye" events) is one where people in general tend to do these kinds of things, I am making my official statement now:
Please, nobody organize any surprise parties. I honestly hate them. I don't understand what is OK about tricking someone, making them look like a dumb fool ("ha ha, they didn't figure it out!"), and embarrassing them in a group when they are supposed to be your friend. Perhaps from your (general you) perspective this is being a bad sport or too sensitive, but it's how I feel. I would definitely be upset at whoever instigated such a thing, possibly would break down and cry, and might even flounce out in irritation, depending on cosmic rays and the phase of the moon. So don't go there. (This goes for the receiving end as well, all y'all in Canada.)
Posting this makes me all squirmy with "OMG, what would even make her think we'd want to? Who the hell does she think she is? Get a load of this self-aggrandizing crap!" kinds of feelings, but they're ("we're"? --since I've been asked my preferences on everything from cake filling to gift ideas) doing one at work and I know I probably would if I were on the other end of such a thing, so I'm just sayin'.
(edit: In case it's ambiguous, I'm referring to a non-secret party in the last paragraph, and that's the sort of party I'm saying I might myself be likely to take part in if tables were turned. Realized it sounded perhaps like I was being a hypocrite.)
Please, nobody organize any surprise parties. I honestly hate them. I don't understand what is OK about tricking someone, making them look like a dumb fool ("ha ha, they didn't figure it out!"), and embarrassing them in a group when they are supposed to be your friend. Perhaps from your (general you) perspective this is being a bad sport or too sensitive, but it's how I feel. I would definitely be upset at whoever instigated such a thing, possibly would break down and cry, and might even flounce out in irritation, depending on cosmic rays and the phase of the moon. So don't go there. (This goes for the receiving end as well, all y'all in Canada.)
Posting this makes me all squirmy with "OMG, what would even make her think we'd want to? Who the hell does she think she is? Get a load of this self-aggrandizing crap!" kinds of feelings, but they're ("we're"? --since I've been asked my preferences on everything from cake filling to gift ideas) doing one at work and I know I probably would if I were on the other end of such a thing, so I'm just sayin'.
(edit: In case it's ambiguous, I'm referring to a non-secret party in the last paragraph, and that's the sort of party I'm saying I might myself be likely to take part in if tables were turned. Realized it sounded perhaps like I was being a hypocrite.)