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[arethinn]

[Poll #841627]

(What this question is driving at is do you find the fact of someone "not looking" to be an unattractive feature in and of itself, and/or is it enough to put you off them completely?)

edit: A number of you have picked "choose to do nothing" already and I realize now there is a subsidiary question to that - specifically why? Do you think they may be annoyed or angry with you? Feel it would be a waste of effort? Etc.

Comments

[othertruths.livejournal.com]

Oh hells, no, availability has nothing to do with attractiveness. I am rather appreciative of the attractiveness of the human body, and enjoy a good look at a hottie of either sex just as much as anyone else. The fact that neither they nor I are looking or available makes them no less attractive.

[m0usegrrl.livejournal.com]

Hee. I'd do nothing because, while I may find the person aesthetically pleasing to me, I have no sex drive any longer, and therefore no interest in pursuit. ^___^

[enotsola]

Few reasons. Even if, in some alternate dimension or something, I was lookin' myself, I'd not say anything. Aside from figuring I'd just be wasting time (what with how I tend to feel about myself), I know on the occasions I've had people come up to me I've been creeped out. I'd go for the polite compliment option if I figured I could pull it off without seeming like trying to pick someone up, because I figure compliments tend to make me feel better. I figure though, that coming from me, it wouldn't mean anything anyway. Either that, or they'd think I'm just trying to pick them up, which also isn't the case. So really, continuing to hold up a wall seems to be the right answer.

Really, I guess this applies the same to if I think they're looking or not, as I'm not.

[tiggrrl.livejournal.com]

Do nothing because if it seems like they're actively "not looking" as opposed to passively, then any move I might make, even just a compliment, would be unwanted and could come off as pushy or even sleezy.

[twopiearr.livejournal.com]

i choose to do nothing

partly because i am in a closed relationship
partly because i lack the necessary self-confidence to make the first move

but if she flirts with me i will smile and flirt back, because flirting is fun - i'm just kind of bad at it

[rainsingingwolf.livejournal.com]

I'd still go and talk to them. They could still become a friend. :)

[shalora.livejournal.com]

Given my guy and relationship phobias, that's the best flirting opportunity in my world! I do enjoy flirting, I just don't want to have to deal with potential repurcussions. *grin* Happened the other night, as a matter of fact; I was in a bar for a friend's concert, and this guy came and sat next to me, and we started chatting, and he mentioned his girlfriend early on in the conversation (and yes, it was relevent and not all push-away-y), and we got to spend a lovely hour or so flirting with both of us knowing it was nothing more than that. Very much fun. :)

[ninth-myth.livejournal.com]

flirt, but i'm very taken so it's just for fun.
i probably would not even approach someone i didn't already know and would be unlikely to flirt much with someone who didn't know i was taken.
"not looking" doesn't really change my attitude/feelings/approach towards a person. even not looking and attracted to a sex other than my own isn't that likely to put me off. but being taken is a nice safe possition to consider others from.
choose to do nothing would be due to prior knowledge (they'd find it uncomfortable, they'd react in a way -i'd- find uncomfortable), not feeling outgoing (most likely), or present company.

[helen99.livejournal.com]

They'd be attractive to me even if not available. What would happen is, I'd try to become friends and explore the link in that context, rather than in the context of a dating relationship (unless their availability changed at some point...)

[goldronin.livejournal.com]

Attractive is attractive, so I'd probably go with 'do nothing' and admire from a distance, or maybe pay the compliment. Something along the lines of "aw, the eyecandy went away" might follow their leaving.
It also depends on why they aren't looking. 99.9% of the time (you know the exception) if they're taken, I lose interest.

[goldronin.livejournal.com]

LOL. Well, I guess it's good I didn't hit on you? :P