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I've been thinking some more about the "dubious elite" thing and got nowhere good with it - I have recalled/discovered that I've always initiated everything, both when you consider my three long-term and one short-term relationships, and all the various flirtations that I've gotten into over the years. Over the past 13 years I can only recall three instances where someone ever approached me out of their own free will and (presumably) attraction to me.
My feeling is that, excessive shyness aside, if you are sufficiently attracted to someone, you eventually approach them in some way, even if you make a total fool out of yourself and it never goes anywhere. I have done this on numerous occasions, simply felt strongly enough that someone was so pretty that I just had to tell them about it. Yet none that I can think of have had cause to do so to me. Clearly, then, I am not attractive enough to cause this reaction in anyone.
As you might imagine this has done some very serious blows to an already wounded-to-nonexistent self-esteem, and I'm seriously considering going away for a while and thinking about it...
My feeling is that, excessive shyness aside, if you are sufficiently attracted to someone, you eventually approach them in some way, even if you make a total fool out of yourself and it never goes anywhere. I have done this on numerous occasions, simply felt strongly enough that someone was so pretty that I just had to tell them about it. Yet none that I can think of have had cause to do so to me. Clearly, then, I am not attractive enough to cause this reaction in anyone.
As you might imagine this has done some very serious blows to an already wounded-to-nonexistent self-esteem, and I'm seriously considering going away for a while and thinking about it...
