re: woman, girl, whatever

[arethinn]

dancinglights brought up the term "lady" and its uses, and I made a remark myself in a comment to someone else about how I thought maybe people just used my name rather than a generic term if they needed to refer to me, but it actually does make me curious what word or words other people might use for me. Out of the following choices I think I would mostly use "girl" for myself (although as mentioned, I think I may be growing out of it). You?

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Comments

[starlightforest.livejournal.com]

You would refer to me as an "androgen"? Why?

[silvaerina-tael.livejournal.com]

Not that you seem 'sexless' per say, but more... gender fluid than most with regards to energy sig and body type... That is to say that you could pass as either under the right circumstances, and this is without makeup or costuming. Cel comes across as something similar, though somewhat reversed.

Let me know if this makes any sense.

[starlightforest.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean, but I find it partly odd (since it is not something I am trying to do) and partly disappointing (since I want to be female, and attractive female at that, which to me pretty much precludes masculine characteristics).

[silvaerina-tael.livejournal.com]

I guess my view of gender is different. I find "pretty" males and females aesthetically pleasing, especially if they have what I would consider "Elven" looks, which you do. I tend to view myself with an 'overabundance' of feminine traits...

That said, you *are* attractive, and feminine, and pretty, just not... overtly so (at least to the point where they exude 'femaleness'. Than any sort of overt sexual overtones I am uncomfortable with regardless of whether it's male or female).

[starlightforest.livejournal.com]

"I find "pretty" males and females aesthetically pleasing,"

So do I. To me, "pretty" requires typically "feminine" characteristics (e.g. fine bone structure, soft clear skin, long hair, long eyelashes, etc.), so for either a male or female to be "pretty" to me, they are necessarily also "feminine".

It is also possible to be "handsome" (which involves some typically "masculine" characteristics), but that's a whole different set of aesthetic appreciation. Not generally something I am attracted to per se in the case of males (which is different WRT most of society, but you and I seem fairly similar in that regard), and something that I usually find specifically unattractive in females.

"just not... overtly so (at least to the point where they exude 'femaleness'. Than any sort of overt sexual overtones I am uncomfortable with"

See, I think I rather would "exude femaleness". To me that is a position of power, and more generally attractive rather than just to a niche market ;).

[silvaerina-tael.livejournal.com]

"See, I think I rather would "exude femaleness". To me that is a position of power, and more generally attractive rather than just to a niche market ;)."

Ok, I see where you are coming from with this. I think for me, it's my perceived slant on sexuality, and seeing myself as "neutral" rather than male or female, hence being uncomfortable with the whole thing.

[silvaerina-tael.livejournal.com]

Like the icon, btw... as I'm currently playing a Malkie in an RPG...