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enotsola and I were tentatively planning for May 3rd, but my mother has shot that down as being Beltane (in the SCA Kingdom of the West sense) and if the person who is fighting for her at March Crown (March 22) should win, she HAS to be there to be crowned queen. (which is O.o all in itself) This is a bummer because the 3rd sat well with both of us "feeling" wise, but yeah. We're not sure whether forward to the 10th or back to April 26th is better. Right now I'm leaning for back because we can't apply for an employment authorization until we have applied to adjust status to permanent resident, which we have to complete the marriage first to be able to do, so the sooner the better on getting him employed and us out of my parents' house. ^_-Turns out also that the marriage license is only the first part and we do have to have some kind of ceremony, although California is loose about who can perform a marriage. You can have a clergyperson or judge do it, pay an the extra fee to have the county clerk's office do it (but you have to have an appointment and it's something crazy like Tues - Fri, 10 AM to 4 PM only) or pay a different extra fee to deputize some friend or relative of choice to be a "solemnizer" (who has to show up and apply for this -- I assume they are sworn in, given forms, stuff like that).
Um. We don't have anyone in mind for that. We are not having a church wedding, ugh. I'm not thrilled by the idea of the civil ceremony schedule because we really would prefer a weekend. Any of you local doods out there (still) ordained?
(*grumbles at the eligibility language that says "The couple must be an unmarried man and an unmarried woman"*)
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Date: Feb. 14th, 2008 09:49 pm (UTC)From:no subject
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Date: Feb. 14th, 2008 10:19 pm (UTC)From:I know. ;-D
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Date: Feb. 14th, 2008 10:18 pm (UTC)From:All 3 were pagan handfasting style weddings, even the one with the Bio-Family in attendence..
:-D
I'm somewhat suprised that it sounds more annoying in CA than in MA for a man and a woman to get hitched - but - what are ya gonna do?
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Date: Feb. 14th, 2008 10:30 pm (UTC)From:no subject
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Date: Feb. 14th, 2008 10:27 pm (UTC)From:They complimented me on the wings I was wearing one year, but I dont' know if they actually recognized me.
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Date: Feb. 14th, 2008 10:39 pm (UTC)From:i know what you mean, tho.
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Date: Feb. 14th, 2008 11:41 pm (UTC)From:I've done 3 weddings for 'alternative' families, where ordination didnt matter. Recently got a ULC ordination, which is legal in most states. I'm not promoting my services, just chiming in. After all, I live on the wrong coast!
But if you have someone who is energetically right, ULC ordination is easy and quick, and they are based in CA.
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Date: Feb. 15th, 2008 01:50 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: Feb. 15th, 2008 03:15 am (UTC)From:FWIW, we just got the courthouse guy-on-duty-that-morning to perform their standard ceremony to meet that requirement. The secular ceremony didn't involve any religious statements or promises of obedience, and it was short and sweet and included everything the state requires. If you have rings they'd be exchanged at the end of the secular ceremony. The whole thing being officiated, witnessed, recorded, and certified by the same people saves time and eliminates bureaucratic bumbling. There's a fee for the license before and a fee for each copy of the certificate after. I think ours added up to about $75 if I remember right.
When we did this, I took that morning off, and just told work I had an appointment and would be in late. I didn't tell them until that afternoon when I got to work what it had been about. They all still think I'm a little weird...
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Date: Feb. 15th, 2008 03:20 am (UTC)From:Here, the license and the ceremony are two separate pieces and it would require a separate appointment. It's not drop-in. Our license is $79 by itself and if you want the civil ceremony there that's another $80 or something. Anyway, we wanted a weekend so that people who wanted to show up (and maybe have, like, dinner afterwards or something) could do so. But yeah, I'm leaning towards April rather than later May too, albeit for practical reasons.
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Date: Feb. 15th, 2008 04:51 am (UTC)From:no subject
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Date: Feb. 15th, 2008 08:44 am (UTC)From:Message me if you need me, otherwise, congrats (in case I haven't already extended that sentiment).
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Date: Feb. 15th, 2008 04:48 pm (UTC)From:Come to think on it, I probably could too...ordination in the ULC counts, and I got that years ago, I've just never actually done one, but I know
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Date: Feb. 18th, 2008 06:30 pm (UTC)From:-Ran
Re: congratulations
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