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are there any life hacks for like. how to be worth anything and have anything you do deserve anyone giving a shit about it and to not get punished for the mere act of mentioning that it hurts to be wrong and not enough? answers on the back of a postcard
(and don't say "intimate friendships" like a couple of no doubt well-meaning folks did here. I have no idea how long it's been since I had one of those, never mind more than one. what a concept. the whole thing is there's not enough of me to achieve and sustain such a thing, even if I knew anyone with whom I would be comfortable trying it, which I don't. I barely get accepted into surface-level friendships. nor does "[you don't] need to reach a certain threshold to be allowed to live happily" make sense here because I'm talking about needing to reach a threshold to be accepted as belonging.)
(and don't say "intimate friendships" like a couple of no doubt well-meaning folks did here. I have no idea how long it's been since I had one of those, never mind more than one. what a concept. the whole thing is there's not enough of me to achieve and sustain such a thing, even if I knew anyone with whom I would be comfortable trying it, which I don't. I barely get accepted into surface-level friendships. nor does "[you don't] need to reach a certain threshold to be allowed to live happily" make sense here because I'm talking about needing to reach a threshold to be accepted as belonging.)
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Date: Jul. 21st, 2025 06:46 pm (UTC)From:My problems were not the same, but I had trouble finding a therapist who actually changed my perspective and not just how I talked. The one I worked well with is a certified Hakomi Therapist and graduate of the Process Work Institute, which are the keywords I'd search for if I was looking outside of Oregon/Washington.