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[arethinn]

are there any life hacks for like. how to be worth anything and have anything you do deserve anyone giving a shit about it and to not get punished for the mere act of mentioning that it hurts to be wrong and not enough? answers on the back of a postcard

(and don't say "intimate friendships" like a couple of no doubt well-meaning folks did here. I have no idea how long it's been since I had one of those, never mind more than one. what a concept. the whole thing is there's not enough of me to achieve and sustain such a thing, even if I knew anyone with whom I would be comfortable trying it, which I don't. I barely get accepted into surface-level friendships. nor does "[you don't] need to reach a certain threshold to be allowed to live happily" make sense here because I'm talking about needing to reach a threshold to be accepted as belonging.)

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Unfortunately, the best place we've found to tackle our personal self-loathing and self-hatred (for us, related to our depression) was talking to a therapist and adjusting our habits to make us feel better about ourselves (eating better, sleeping on more regular schedules, spending more time outside in the sun, exercising, etc.). It wasn't easy but we found it to be worthwhile.

It's just an idea, but you're welcome to some of the friend servers/more tight-knit Discords servers I'm in if you'd like? I've definitely found the joining in on places that feel akin to going to a cafe every night and chatting with the same folks consistently is a good way to make friends, even close ones, and build a more viable support network of people you feel you can lean on and who will hype you up when you're feeling down. Plus, we'd love to get to know you better! Feels like we see you everywhere but barely talk at all. :P