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[arethinn]

so what's wrong with changing a name to reflect one's current state? is there something in the great book of all things bad against that? sure, i guess, confusing for people on mailing lists.. but if I named myself "Elisann Tulgey" at the moment, after the Tulgey Wood in "Jabberwocky" (which is rather how I feel at the moment - dark, confused, but with wonder and fantastical things hiding in the shadows), would it be somehow wrong not to keep that when it passed? to keep changing my name or part of my name as circumstances dictated?

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[the-misha.livejournal.com]

I think your name is your own, to use or change as you see fit, and if anyone has a problem, hey... fuck 'em if they can't take a joke, eh?

[starlightforest.livejournal.com]

Leave it to a brother to give this kind of answer :)

Seriously though. Having a small repertoire and changing every day - or more often, depending on how I was feelign with the post - is too much. Too minute, too - giving too much detail, too much separation to something that is really a single phenomenon of me, in all my variations. Part of this is letting go of the need to label every little thing (down, Virgo, down!) and letting a variety of characteristics and stuff be subsumed under one name or label. And yet, I feel that I am a dynamic being and there's no way I can stick to a single name (short of my "true name", which like most people's I suspect isn't even a "word" as we know it) for any lengthy period of time. Too much change and discovery going on for that. In a way, a name is as much a statement to myself as it is a term of address for other people.

[enotsola]

So feel free to change it as you see fit. I'm sure some people will continue to call you whatever they call you, and others will pick up whatever name you use. I think really that it's more important what it means to you than what it means to others. But then, that's me generally right now. I think that daily or even weekly name changing gets to be too confusing. Monthly is probably also pushing it, but every few months, while it may be confusing for some, sounds about right. Longer if you feel the need, but I'd try not to do shorter.